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Oh to be a doll

As kids my best friend and I are fascinated with Barbie dolls.

The pretty face, long hair and fabulous clothes won us over. Till now we still think long hair is synonymous to beauty. We even made braided and beaded hairstyles for them and sometimes try to sew clothes from scraps of fabric for them to wear. 

Imagine my amazement when I saw these pictures on the net.

Vogue Paris “Panoplies”

Vogue Paris “Panoplies”

I am not in the loop. These pictures are not new. They are from Vogue Paris “Panoplies” Doll Editorial of December 2014.

If only they were sold in stores, I think me and my best friend would save up to buy one.

I kind of like how they included accessories like the ones seen in Barbie dolls! Also the fabulous clothes, the doll’s clothes really did embody the look of the brand.

See the other dolls here.

 


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a dress named after me

Because nothing screams bridal quite like a white ball gown wedding dress.

The photo shows a dress named Pam. Just like my name. It was named after me. 

After all this is a Zuhair Murad 2016 spring-summer bridal collection,  a strapless number with sweetheart neckline and lace embroidery, romantic style white wedding ball-gown dress with veil.  

That was quite a description. 

Zuhair Murad -Pam

Zuhair Murad 2016 -Pam

So, when did I want to look like a generic bride? Since I had my wedding gown barbie.  That was eons ago. 

Or was it because all my friends wore white ballgowns? And all the aunts thinks a ball gown looks more expensive than other styles?

I examined pictures of the dresses I fit again, and again. Maybe more hours staring at it than I care to admit. It has been a warped huge cloud of a dress with a lot of stuff. I am trying to stuff  every dress I wanted in my entire 29 years of living into one. That is a very very tall order. And a scary one at that. 

I wanted the big huge giant ballgown like what my barbie doll wore from my childhood days, the pink prom dress I wore, my lilac enchanted dress given to me by my uncle, the polka dotted peach tea dress from my aunt, a berriboned fuschia and pink floor length gown that made me feel better after having an asthma attack, the silver and periwinkle ballgown I wore to my cousin’s wedding… basically, I wanted to top off everything I had worn.

I wanted my wedding dress to be the best dress that I am going to wear on my entire life.  

I wanted all the magical stuff in the dress: the corset boning, the glitter, embroidery and lace, layers upon layers of sheer tulle, the frosted organza, sparkly buttons, ribbons, beading etc. All the good stuff in petite size, within my budget.

Talk about being difficult. And nowhere realistic or practical. 

I am having a hard time picking out what I like. Can a mermaid be a ballgown at the same time?! I refuse to settle and spent unreasonable hours poring over magazines and the internet. I keep on saving a ton of pictures that does nothing but to muddle up my thoughts more.

But the wedding is still six months away, I thought.

What about all the other dresses out there, the ones that might be better? How can I be sure that the dress I picked, express who I am when it has features that are not really me? or not the usual? not the traditional? not like something I would wear? is it too boring? too classic? does this look bridal and formal enough? is it unique enough?

So I look for another dress… and the cycle of doubting my decision/s begins again. 

To hell with what everybody thinks. I am going to pick what makes me happy. 

After all there may be other brides who will wear the same style of dress that I wore. That only means I have impeccable taste. Would be my wedding be less of a wedding if my dress looks similar to another bride’s dress? No. Will my Marriage be better if I wear a Vera Wang or a  Zuhair Murad? No.  Will my entire wedding be recreated by other brides who used the same wedding suppliers I got? I don’t think so.

The fact that there is only one me and one Kei makes our wedding unique. 

Will my wedding dress be the most awesome thing I will wear? probably.

But it is sure that I will wear more dresses after, maybe not as pretty as my wedding gown or maybe even better than my gown. Who knows? My 25th wedding anniversary/renewal of vows  dress might top the first dress. 

When I removed my unrealistic expectations about what I wanted from the dress, did I like what I saw. I envision myself as me only better, a polished and smiling me ready to walk to the arms of my beloved.

 

*No ballgowns for me. Even if it is the usual thing. Because, I am NOT YOUR USUAL bride to be. And the ballgown is so Pammy from the days gone a long time ago. =)

 

 


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signed, sealed, delivered – we have our primary sponsors!

When it comes to the wedding preparation and practices you probably noticed that we are kind of different. We came from traditional Chinese families yet we are non-traditional thinkers with a hint of modern style. This makes our families say that we think like Westerners. We take that as a compliment.

I would like to say that it is not like we disregard tradition, it is just that we are practical.

So, when it comes to the daunting task of getting the principal sponsors or the ninongs and ninangs, we still made it non-traditional. Rebellious moves on our end, as most of our peers have gone through this the traditional way.

principal

We have 8 pairs of principal sponsors. While to some that may be too many. But to us with a huge family that was the exact number. It even complies with the traditional Chinese thinking that 8 is a lucky number.  Split into two, that means four pairs from the groom’s side and four pairs from the bride’s side.

That being said, imagine visiting and giving each of the pairs these “required items”- pork leg, misua (very thin variety of salted Chinese noodles made from wheat flour), fruits, sweets and more importantly fabric/s to be made into a suit/ to be made into a gown.

Kei already had his prospects for his principal sponsors; I on the other hand only had two. The other two was chosen by my parents. Most of our prospective sponsors have been sponsors before. Meaning they have been through this stuff already. Most of the males own more than one suit; the ladies have had lots of gowns made for them too. We also doubt if they really enjoy eating misua?! I can imagine them saying misua again?!

Meaty Vegetable Misua - Photo from Knorr Philippines

Meaty Vegetable Misua – Photo from Knorr Philippines

And one of our couples is Pinoy! So how do we explain to them the Chinese tradition of getting primary sponsors? I don’t think they would know what to do if we gave them the pork leg and misua stuff…etc. They even called us up to ask what our motif is so that they could buy their suit and gown! Woah! Hold it right there! Because as per Filipino tradition, they pay for their own attire.

Kei and I decided on going with our own version of the tradition. A modern and practical solution for everyone involved. We are going to give out our very own: Principal Sponsor Kit. (Much like what I did with the bridesmaids kits, but for another purpose. See my bridesmaids’ kits here)

the principal sponsor kits

our principal sponsor kits

For the the males a nice long sleeved polo shirt with tie – they get to wear their own suit without having to get another suit made, for the ladies it will still be the standard fabric – only twist is that we not only gave out the fabric of our chosen color, we also gave them lace. As an added bonus, we also gave out details regarding the wedding along with our love story. How is that for being organized? hahahaha!

inside the box of the female sponsor's kit

inside the box of the female sponsor’s kit

We also traded the misua for most of the couples; it was replaced with us inviting the couple out to eat, like a double date. In the process getting to know them better and getting comfortable with them. Although we have 2 chosen sponsor couples are really traditionalist, we gave them the staple fare: pork leg, fruit, sweets and misua.

So far, the result of our rebellion has been positive. 

The males are happy that they get to save money by wearing what they have/or their favorite suit and getting a nice polo + tie to boot. The ladies are excited to get another gown made without scrimping on the budget this time! (The ladies have no competition as the males will not have to get another suit made thus nothing to worry about!) Three couples even called us up to say that we were very thoughtful for giving them a hassle free solution to preparing their attire for the wedding. Practicality wins again! 

 

*as of the moment all our kits are sent out save for one.


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pure hazel love

I have been a contact lens user for more than a decade now. Normally, I wear the soft clear ones.

I am loyal to the Air Optix brand as their lens are breathable and non drying therefore their lenses are very comfy that I sometimes forget I am wearing contacts! They are also perfect for my sensitive eyes. No joke. 

So, when colored contact lenses (graded ones) came out in the  market, I was very much tempted to try them out… but due to my fear of eye infection/s (yes, I learned my lesson the hard way) and questionable (Korean contact lenses) brands, I opted not to and go on wearing my usual clear contact lenses.

But not today. Because the kind folks of Air Optix Philippines sent me this for trial!

over the moon

Over the moon! My favorite contact lenses now comes in colored versions!

I was going to keep this to use on my prenup shoot come September, But I got impatient and wanted to wear them. Right away. 

Or should I say right after I disposed last month’s contact lenses. 

mine!

Mine! =)

Unlike the usual reviews I see on the internet where bloggers wear colored lenses just because, I wear contact lenses because I need them (badly) and also because I am vain. hahahahaha! At least I am honest! 

graded

graded+colored=perfect for me

The box contains two contact lenses that are individually wrapped.

inside the box

inside the box

They gave me Pure hazel to try.

I was told that it is a subtle color. How does it look like you say?

look at the color!

look at the color and pattern! (the lenses in my contact lens case)

It looks like this! Pretty right?! And that is my contact lens case look like that my friends. It is because I use hydrogen peroxide-based lens care solution to clean, disinfect and store my contact lenses. Rather that the usual contact lens solution. 

my contact lens solution does this

my contact lens solution cleans like this

I told you I have sensitive eyes and a history of eye infection. That is why I am wary of anything that concerns my eyes.

When worn the lenses tend to blend in. It is very natural looking.

can you see it?

Pardon my tiny eyes, can you see it?

Cloudy vision due to the colored lens? Nope. Comfort for a whole day of wear? yes! I wore my lenses by 10 in the morning and took them off by 9 in the evening. Noticeable color? Not really eye catching but its there.

Like what they said, it is subtle, I like the fact that it does not make me look artificial.

I feel pretty! Oh so pretty!

*Sings* I feel pretty! Oh so pretty!

In this photo the color is much more noticeable. Kind of gives definition to the eyes.

It has that ooomph, I am not wearing any make up in these photos but you can see that my eyes brightened up my face!

Will definitely go get another pair of this one when September comes along.  My favorite lenses just got trendier! Yey!

 

*All my reviews, opinions, and other stuff expressed here are my own and based on my own experience with the product. The product was given to me for trial. For safety, consult with your optometrist/ophthalmologist before changing or trying out new eye products.