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two brides in the family

the actual message sent to me

the actual message sent to me

Yesterday (March 15, 2015), I got this text message from my cousin (that is also my bridesmaid) that she was proposed to within the week. And she will not be able to fulfill her duties as my bridesmaid-as she has her own wedding to plan.

Her date is Jan 24, 2016 (so close to our date-Dec 19 and it is also right after my birthday!) We would be on a Sukob- a (Filipino) belief that misfortunes will befall the couple if they decided to get married during the same year a sibling also got married. or a chiong xi-clash of luck a (Chinese) superstition that if a couple’s wedding falls within less than 30 days of the wedding day of one of their close relatives (cousins included), then the couples cannot attend each another’s wedding or there may be a ‘collision’ of good fortune. I was like are are you freaking kidding me?

You didn’t even have a decent Facebook post or announcement or anything??? What now?

Do not get me wrong. I love my cousin. For my whole existence, she was one of my Atchie/s (big sister) –one I look up to. One of the family. I love her dearly that is why I picked her to be by my side on my wedding day.

But then again. What guy proposes to a girl that already has picked out a wedding date that fast?! (Chinese usually gets a geomancer to pick out a good day.) I informed you guys, a year ago of my date! I was aghast. I mean yeah, I am happy for you. But the news also stirs up my thoughts….Why did you have to set the date so soon? Why so sudden? Why the rush?

I got engaged July 20, 2014. My wedding is at December 19, 2015. That December 19 date was picked by our geomancer!

A year in the making, We even sent out bridesmaid kits for the entourage (Feb 2015)! She even accepted! It was all planned, she knew! Just why?

Then I am blindsided with this. After knowing our story, our date, our colors and location of our wedding. I was like why? Why you do this? The only good thing right now is at least we still haven’t had her measurements taken for her dress.

So, yeah maybe that was out of her control. But looking again at her message, there is this 100 days before and after that she wrote down… that means she and her family cannot attend my wedding, Same goes for us.

So yeah whatever. If that makes them feel better so be it. What I hate about the situation is the awkwardness and the comparison it brings, let us also not forget the casting of entourage… kind of like a ugly power struggle. We are all supposed to be happy for one another! A family must be united on a happy occasion right? You guys know how I hate family drama. Sucks. All this because they set their date so close and so sudden.

Anyway, what is done is done. I’m just praying that everything goes well for everyone.

I may be bewildered now, but I am ok. I bear no ill or bitterness. All the best Atchie C.

I love you and is truly happy for you! Happy preps! Our family is truly blessed to have two happy occasions to look forward to! Double the bride, double the love! God bless!

xoxo, Pam

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irked to the second power

There are some things that money just cannot buy, like manners, morals and integrity. 

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The statement above cannot be more accurate for my weekend experience. Kei and I had to work on a architectural plan this weekend, but we also want to spend time together so we came up with an idea… we do our work as usual at the nearest coffee shop. Then go shopping after. 

That was the start of a cringe worthy afternoon experience for the both of us.

As soon as we arrived at the coffee shop, we immediately got our orders and proceeded to carry on our task. Plugged the laptop and even shared our table to a couple of students. After a short while the students left, leaving the whole table to us. Bliss.

Then came a family of tourists. They have no table so we shared ours to them. The family having many members, are arguing themselves on how to get more chairs/grab other people’s spot. We paid them no attention.

Our peaceful stay has become a disaster. The kids of the said family fought over a frap, suddenly there was screaming, and crying and without a warning  my feet was splashed with a cold sticky mocha frap. Without even a sorry and without even bothering to wipe of the mess on our area and the floor. The elders of the family just got napkins to soak up the coffee on the table. So, there we were on a shared table, our laptop near the pile of soggy napkins and my feet sticky and clammy from the frap. I just wiped my foot with wet ones and acted like everything is normal.

I was irked, but yeah. shit happens so, we continue our work.

And the kids got another frap to fight over. Hell’s bells.

You guessed it. The contents of the second cup is all over the table again. For the second time, and they did have a lot more spare cups. We were restraining ourselves from getting into a fight with the family of tourists! If only we could do the table flip! 

Before our stuff gets damaged, we hurriedly packed up and left.

With Kei muttering loudly and I giving them the stank eye. Good thing we did finish our work for a quick 30 mins. 

 

Once you have money and fame, the next thing you should expect is scandal and shame. – Michael Bassey Johnson