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bloody hell of a gown: a horror story

Since it’s only now that I have the time, I looked and admired what the stars wore to the golden globes. Below are the looks that I loved.

photos from the internet

photos from the internet

Amy Adams in a silk baby blue gown (left), Greer Grammer in a blush dress with gold floral beading (center), Naomi Watts in her strapless lemon yellow gown with an eye-popping necklace (right). The yellow hue really caught my eye. (I hate it really. It made me want another gown for prenup pictorial!) Speaking of pre-nup gown. I have to share the story of the red gown I had made (to order at Divisoria) was a huge headache. (see the peg of my red gown here)

looking good from a far

so this is my actual red gown looking good from a distance

Got it made and fitted around the middle of November to be picked up Dec 13 to be used for a friends’ Dec 21 wedding (Got to maximize the gown! I plan to wear it at least twice). However I dropped by the mananahi on Dec 6 (to look at the progress of the gown and a fitting if possible) and horror of horrors. My red gown is apparently blue, with wrong beading design and wrong bead color. It looks nowhere like the gown I wanted made. (I have a suspicion that the blue one they showed me was not really mine. They just showed me that to appease me.) I demanded a refund but they would not give me back my money. Not the one to argue any further, I allowed them to give the right gown to me by Dec 20. (a day before my friend/s’ wedding) Come the Dec 20, (afternoon) they were just beading it! Imagine the shock/anger as I already paid for it a long time ago and still got nothing to show for it. I got my gown just before the mananahi closed the shop. Checked it in a rush it was color Red, with gold beading. As soon as I got home, I tried it on.  It was very ill fitting!

pardon my peeking undergarment

pardon my peeking undergarment

It was a mess. I have to hold (by that I mean clamping it with my hands on the side, and literally holding it) the gown so that it wont slide off my body, the top area was too loose that looks like it was trying to make the boob area bigger. The mesh detail was off by a huge margin. The waist is also loose. It doesn’t make sense to me as they have my measurements as early as mid November! It was infuriating.  Early next day I hurriedly rushed to the mananahi to get my red gown altered so I can wear the said gown to the friend/s’ wedding. The mananahi is nowhere to be found. In place of her, is a young lass presumably her family (?) who does not know anything about my predicament. So, I explained that I need the gown altered right now. So the lass began frantically phoning the mananahi and took my measurements again, lastly assured me that the gown will be ready after lunch. She then closed their shop and rushed off. Around 2:00pm I returned to their shop. It was still closed. I have to go (without my gown). To catch my friend/s’ wedding. I just wore whatever I found in my closet.

altered but still not ok

altered but still not ok

At around half past five, I got a call from the mananahi asking me why I did not get my gown yet? To which I replied: I was told that it would be ready after lunch, but it is already late in the afternoon.  It will be of no use to me now as it is too late. I will ask someone to pick up the gown tomorrow morning. Wasted effort. I trusted that they will deliver. I did not get to use the gown on my friend/s’ wedding. I am now looking for another mananahi for the remaining gowns that I need. To be fair the red gown that mananahi made is good/average. It is their unprofessional service that ruins them. My altered gown is still not ok. The mesh part of the gown is skewed and because of the amount of beading in the mesh, nothing can be done to alter it. Altering it would mean ripping off the whole mesh area with beads and get the one to repair it to create a new mesh and bead the mesh again. Labor intensive and another expenditure. I was avoiding the expenditure in the first place! max fail. 

so many beads on the wrong mesh

so many beads on the skewed mesh

This is the mananahi/who did my bloody hell of a gown.

learn from my experience, this mananahi is one to avoid.

learn from my experience, this mananahi is one to avoid.

*All my reviews, opinions, and other stuff expressed here are my own and based on my own experience with the product. This is not a sponsored post, I paid for this (from) my own pocket. 


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red alert

I decided to go with red. The red gown I mean.

Beautiful, eye catching, statement color.

photo from pinterest

photo from pinterest

Paid for it in half and will pay for the other half once the gown is done. Excited to see/wear it since they promised to add some beading detail to its shoulder area. I just love shiny stuff!

And December, we have to talk, you can’t just sneak up on me like this. I am not yet ready.

I cannot stress that enough!

See, I haven’t even started shopping, I cant seem to wrap my head on how I will go about the get together with the family, the yearly meet up with the childhood friends, eating up a riot with my favorite foodie/s, my sister’s birthday, at least get something seriously done for our big day. Calling up the venue to ask for permits for a prenup shoot…. I am rambling. Sorry.

I am not prepared at all.

How did planning go from my forte to my weakness?

 


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apologetic rebellion

Chinese couples usually go through a “Tinghun” engagement ceremony. Our parents had that, some of my cousins had that…however, Kei and I sort of side-tracked. We have gone the western way, (That is a proposal then the upcoming wedding.) than the traditional (Chinese) way (that is engagement then wedding).

Thing is a traditional “Tinghun” means a lot of money. Why? The groom (and his family) invites their close relatives as well as relatives of the bride for a tea ceremony. Prepares loads of clothes, shoes, watch and sets of jewelry, cakes, fruits/candy to give to the relatives, who attended the betrothal. All the expenses are shouldered by the groom. In return the bride’s family gives a watch and a necklace to the groom. Kei and I decided to skip it. Instead use the money for the wedding. A wedding is a major expense!

various

One of my aunts sort of had some issues with it. That another aunt has to step in and explain to the other aunt. Practicality trumps tradition.

So, now that I am looking for prenup (photo) stuff, other than the gowns, I sort of wanted to get myself a red dress (modern take), or a cheongsam/qipao (traditional look). I think it would look good with the venue we had in mind. Also it would be nice to pay homage to our Chinese roots. Kei’s family originated from Hong Kong, mine came from China.

I am going for something like gangster quad or in the mood for love kind of vibe but with a modern take.

these are my inspiration, movie posters from the internet

these are the “mood” inspiration, movie posters from the internet

And here are my inspiration for the dresses, my pegs:

i like them both....

I like them both…help me pick one!

What do you guys think? Should I go with modern or traditional?