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signed, sealed, delivered – we have our primary sponsors!

When it comes to the wedding preparation and practices you probably noticed that we are kind of different. We came from traditional Chinese families yet we are non-traditional thinkers with a hint of modern style. This makes our families say that we think like Westerners. We take that as a compliment.

I would like to say that it is not like we disregard tradition, it is just that we are practical.

So, when it comes to the daunting task of getting the principal sponsors or the ninongs and ninangs, we still made it non-traditional. Rebellious moves on our end, as most of our peers have gone through this the traditional way.

principal

We have 8 pairs of principal sponsors. While to some that may be too many. But to us with a huge family that was the exact number. It even complies with the traditional Chinese thinking that 8 is a lucky number.  Split into two, that means four pairs from the groom’s side and four pairs from the bride’s side.

That being said, imagine visiting and giving each of the pairs these “required items”- pork leg, misua (very thin variety of salted Chinese noodles made from wheat flour), fruits, sweets and more importantly fabric/s to be made into a suit/ to be made into a gown.

Kei already had his prospects for his principal sponsors; I on the other hand only had two. The other two was chosen by my parents. Most of our prospective sponsors have been sponsors before. Meaning they have been through this stuff already. Most of the males own more than one suit; the ladies have had lots of gowns made for them too. We also doubt if they really enjoy eating misua?! I can imagine them saying misua again?!

Meaty Vegetable Misua - Photo from Knorr Philippines

Meaty Vegetable Misua – Photo from Knorr Philippines

And one of our couples is Pinoy! So how do we explain to them the Chinese tradition of getting primary sponsors? I don’t think they would know what to do if we gave them the pork leg and misua stuff…etc. They even called us up to ask what our motif is so that they could buy their suit and gown! Woah! Hold it right there! Because as per Filipino tradition, they pay for their own attire.

Kei and I decided on going with our own version of the tradition. A modern and practical solution for everyone involved. We are going to give out our very own: Principal Sponsor Kit. (Much like what I did with the bridesmaids kits, but for another purpose. See my bridesmaids’ kits here)

the principal sponsor kits

our principal sponsor kits

For the the males a nice long sleeved polo shirt with tie – they get to wear their own suit without having to get another suit made, for the ladies it will still be the standard fabric – only twist is that we not only gave out the fabric of our chosen color, we also gave them lace. As an added bonus, we also gave out details regarding the wedding along with our love story. How is that for being organized? hahahaha!

inside the box of the female sponsor's kit

inside the box of the female sponsor’s kit

We also traded the misua for most of the couples; it was replaced with us inviting the couple out to eat, like a double date. In the process getting to know them better and getting comfortable with them. Although we have 2 chosen sponsor couples are really traditionalist, we gave them the staple fare: pork leg, fruit, sweets and misua.

So far, the result of our rebellion has been positive. 

The males are happy that they get to save money by wearing what they have/or their favorite suit and getting a nice polo + tie to boot. The ladies are excited to get another gown made without scrimping on the budget this time! (The ladies have no competition as the males will not have to get another suit made thus nothing to worry about!) Three couples even called us up to say that we were very thoughtful for giving them a hassle free solution to preparing their attire for the wedding. Practicality wins again! 

 

*as of the moment all our kits are sent out save for one.

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Picking the blooms for the bouquet

So, we (Kei and I) already met our florist.

I came prepared. By that meaning I printed out my pegs to show her what I liked.

For my own bunch of flowers, I wanted a round hand-tied bouquet with long ribbons. As for the blooms I really like Peonies. That was my first pick. So, that was my first question. Can I have peonies in my bridal bouquet? I was told yes. I let out a squeal of joy. Of course peonies are imported (so it is expensive), our florist decided to add ranunculus, and old english rose. (old english roses differ from the standard roses we usually see, to know more about different types of roses see this site.)

For fillers she suggested million stars, I thought it looked a lot like baby’s breath. To which I agreed. She says my bouquet will look like this.

the exact photo our florist showed me. Photo from the wedding chicks.

the exact photo our florist showed me. Photo from the wedding chicks.

As for my MOH (maid of honor), The flowers suggested are gerbera daisies, carnations and roses.

I am familiar with those flowers and those sounds real good to me so I agreed. 

I looked up the million stars flower our florist told me about on the internet, as I got home. Apparently my guess is correct, it is the same as baby’s breath. I don’t want baby’s breath on my bouquet.

So, I went to google peony bouquets and found this.

look at what I found! lovely right?! Photo taken from pinterest

look at what I found! lovely right?! Photo taken from pinterest

I want my bouquet to look like this. So, went on to look for the filler flowers found in this photo! I spent a whole morning looking for what these filler flowers are called! The fillers used here are astilbe and bouvardia. Thanks again google!

they look like the ones on the bouquet right?

they look like the ones on the bouquet right?

Then sent an e-mail to the florist right away, and hoped/prayed to God please let me have pretty flowers. As it will be subject to availability.

Also looked up the blooms I picked, according to their symbols / meanings the “language of flowers”. So, if I would be lucky to get the bouquet above, here is the breakdown of its meaning.

Sounds like I know a lot about flowers?! No. I actually read about them from the internet.

Sounds like I know a lot about flowers?! No. I actually read about them from the internet.

I kind of liked each and every flower and their meaning. But I still need to find back ups just in case. So far here are the other fillers that I really like.

the back up options

the back up options

As for my maid of honor’s bouquet (gerbera daisies, carnations and roses) here is the breakdown of their meanings.

  • Gerbera – gerbera daisies can mean innocence, purity, and cheerfulness as well as being a classic symbol of beauty. It stands out as one of the most distinctly bright and merry flowers. With its bold and striking appearance, these large daisy variations come in a number of vibrant colors that lift the spirit and are an ideal way to brighten someone’s day.
  • Carnation – is a historically rich and meaningful flower choice. With its scientific name dianthus roughly translating to “flower of love” or “flower of the gods”, this flower is one that has been revered for centuries. One of the world’s oldest cultivated flowers, it is appreciated for its ruffled appearance, clove-like scent, and extended blooming period.
  • Rose – of any color can simply mean gratitude and simplicity. Roses symbolize Love, joy, beauty and passion. Roses are the most popular wedding flowers. It can be lightly fragrant to very fragrant, depending on variety. Spray/Standard Roses are the ones commonly used. English-style/garden roses have full, intensely perfumed flowers make sumptuous bouquets.

Basically I picked the flowers not only because I like how they look but also for the message they convey.

Curious about what your favorite flower means? this site listed out a lot of flowers.  For the soon to be brides or just curious: check this for the top 10 list of wedding flowers usually used. For symbolism of the flowers and what flowers to avoid see this list.


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all the little things…

I have been postponing most of the small stuff on wedding planning, thinking it would be easy. IT WAS NOT.

Like the music. So I have been scouring my playlist for wedding worthy songs and ended up deleting a lot.  I thought I got it covered. Apparently the there are songs that seem wedding worthy, until you listen/read its lyrics. Googled some, grabbed some from wedding blogs and even enlisted the help of my music-loving-blogging-bestie Matti! *Much Thanks! See his wedding song suggestions here!*

So continuing with the music, I also thought the wedding dance was a walk in the park. I WAS SO WRONG!  I cannot for the life of me, dance. The last time I danced (Shakira’s Objection – Tango) was second year college. Almost a decade ago.

photo from the internet

photo from the internet

But, Ed Sheeran’s THINKING OUT LOUD  music video made me want to try dancing again. Maybe a rumba/tango/foxtrot would be nice and lively.  (and not like everybody else who danced waltz?!) On the first try with Kei, I was reminded again that I was not born to dance. (So yeah, I take back what I said about waltz. Maybe that is all I can do?) I need dance lessons. ASAP.

photo from the internet

photo from the internet

On the premise of dancing, how do I dance wearing a mermaid gown?  Do I get another dress to wear specifically for dancing?  So, if I am shelling out again for a dance dress, what about the bridal shower dress? Do I buy two white dresses? Or buy one and use it twice?  So far here are what I liked… For the dance dress:

H&M

I think this will do. 

PROS: I love the look! It looks simple, lightweight, my legs can move freely!  CONS: No padding, and I am in between sizes so, sizes 32 or 34 does not feel quite right. (Hello armpit fat!) Alteration is a must. Lastly, this kind of looks like a “waltz” type of dress, since the fabric of this dress is a bit stiff. So will that be waltz for final answer? Or do I get another dress made specifically for the wedding dance?

For the bridal shower dress: I like these dresses, but still never brought any because I am still undecided. 

short dresses

pretty short dresses

And another one from H&M that looks like the “for dancing dress” I had in mind.

adding this to the mix

adding this to the mix

If only H&M made this black dress to white, It would be the perfect two-in-one dress for me.

sadly

How I wish you came in white. 

But, sadly they did not. So, I am still looking for the dresses. What about the shoes? Do I buy flats or still wear my fabulous wedding shoe? It does not stop there, more of little questions running through my head… fabric, flowers, decor…etc. Decisions, decisions….sigh… drives me nuts.

*All my reviews, opinions, and other stuff expressed here are my own and based on my own experience. This is not a sponsored post.